You’re trying to win back an ex and think that being a really, really nice person is going to do the trick. Now don’t get me wrong being nice is always appropriate. Except when you over do it because you want something from your ex. Your ex knows this and will take advantage of your good nature and you still won’t get back together.
When you are always available for your ex you risk the chance that the relationship will develop into friendship. But, you don’t want to be friends, you want to be lovers again.
Here are some things you might be doing but unfortunately will not get you respect:
1) You ex calls you up to talk about his or her new relationship and you offer advice. Are you crazy? You want to win back an ex not drive them into the arms of another lover.
2) You hang out with your ex, go to where your ex has lunch, or dinner or parties. If you are always around, your ex knows exactly what you are doing and who you are doing it with. A little mystery goes a long way. Stop hanging out where your ex hangs out.
3) Even though you are broken up you buy your ex a present for his or her birthday anyway. You think this will put you in their good graces and closer to making up. This isn’t going to do anything for you but drain your bank account.
Under these situations your ex is getting all the perks and you are still getting all the heartache. What you need to do is stop taking your ex’s phone calls. Sure, occasionally you can speak with your ex but always keep it short. Tell your ex you just don’t have time to chat right now you’ll call back. But don’t call back.
Let your ex know that you are getting on with your life. This will make your ex think about you and wonder what you are up to and who you are with. The curiosity your ex is feeling will make him or her excited about you.
While your ex is thinking about you now you must make a list of things you have always wanted to do but couldn’t do while you and your ex where together. Maybe you want to travel, or join a gym or volunteer somewhere. Go and do it Do anything you like but just don’t wait around for your ex.
To win back an ex you don’t have to be nice ... but you have to be smart and you must have a plan that you follow.
To win back an ex you must put the focus on yourself and work your plan. You have the advantage now. So go get the rest of the information you need to win back your ex. Others are enjoying rich, rewarding relationships, why shouldn’t you?
