There are many techniques you can use to win back your ex. But, first you need to decide if you really want your ex back.
Ask yourself some questions
(1) Do you think your ex is the person you can really spend the rest of your life with?
(2) Is this someone who respects the person you are now?
(3) Is it someone who you can trust and who expresses their admiration and appreciation of you?
(4) Is this someone who supports your dreams in life and will stand by you as you pursue those dreams?
If you can’t answer those questions with a resounding YES...then move on to someone else. Don’t short change yourself by settling for someone who can’t stand the test of time. Relationships have their ups and downs and if you don’t truly love and care for someone then when things get rough, and they always do, your relationship will not last.
If you want to win back your ex you have to take some time and think about if this is the right person for you. If you just recently broke up and are thinking of getting your ex back because you are lonely, or sad or having a bad time in your life right now then...STOP...those are not the right reasons.
Reasons not to get back with your ex:
You think you can’t make it on your own without your ex
That is the wrong reason for getting back with your ex. You have to be able to stand on your own two feet apart from each other in order for you to be strong enough to have a healthy relationship together. Once you do all the things necessary to build up your self-esteem your ex will want you even more than you can imagine.
You want to win your ex back because you think they will find someone else
First take comfort in the fact that 90% of rebound relationships don’t work. Then take some time to think about why you really want your ex back, when you find something that is lasting you’re on the right track.
You want your ex back because they are so perfect you’ll never find anyone like this again
Start making a list of all the wonderful qualities you think your ex has. Then make another list of the bad qualities...and don’t kid yourself you’ll find plenty. Think of other people you know who don’t have those bad qualities and then ask yourself if it’s possible that you might find another person for you who not only has the good qualities of your ex but doesn’t have any, or at least as many, of the bad qualities your ex has. Start taking your ex off the pedestal you have put him or her on.
Right now if you have any contact with your ex try to keep it friendly but not desperate. Try to date other people even if the only one you can think about is your ex. Occupy your time with other things for now, go out, exercise do anything you like but just think of and take care of only you. Believe me doing those things will make you more attractive to your ex and clear your mind to decide whether you really want your ex back or not.
These are things you are going to do to just get yourself thinking straight. If you decide that your ex is the one and only for you then you can start making a plan to get your ex back. This time you’ll do it the right way.
If your ex calls and needs your help with something...don’t go running. Don’t think by fixing something for your ex that he or she is going to come back to you. You need to detach right now and only through detachment will you be able to figure out if you really do want your ex back or you are just hurting so much (which is temporary) that you are not thinking straight. Why waste your time trying to win back your ex only to end up in the same place you are in now because you got back together for the wrong reasons?
