So, you’ve just been told “let’s take a little break from each other.” What does that really mean? It means your ex is breaking up with you and doesn’t have the courage to tell you outright. No matter how it’s done a break up is devastating. Your heart is breaking and all you want to do is get your ex back and enjoy life again.
The truth is you CAN get your ex back but first you need to take a deep breath and calm down. Relationship experts all agree that the most important step to winning your ex back is to create an effective plan of action.
It only takes ONE mistake to ruin any chance of getting your ex back!
Some things you shouldn’t do
Call Your Ex
The last thing you should do is call your ex right away. When you first break up your emotions are too raw and you are not thinking straight. Calling your ex right away shows that you have not put any thought into the reason(s) for the break up in the first place and your ex won’t appreciate that. It also makes you look desperate.
Apologize the Wrong Way
You’ve done something wrong and think that maybe if you apologize you can make everything right. Well, sometimes that just ain’t so. In the initial stages of a break up it’s best to take some time to think if what you did or said or didn’t do is the important factor in the break-up. It might just be something you never even thought of and apologizing will only make it worse. But if you are sure that what you did or didn’t do is the reason for the breakup then apologize. But do it with some dignity. And, don’t take the blame for everything that went wrong in your relationship. There are techniques to apologizing that bring you together not further apart.
Use Threats or Beg
The more you try to make your ex do what you want them to do (i.e. getting back with you) the faster they will run away. You’re not crazy, you’re just heartbroken…don’t chase your ex away by making it look like you’re a nut.
Tell Your Ex You Can Still Be Friends
No one believes this and rarely does it happen. It’s usually used as a ploy to just keep your ex near you and the lines of communication open. Your ex needs to “subliminally” learn that your ultimate goal is getting back together so using the word “friends” takes it to the wrong level.
Wait Too Long
You must give yourself at least 30 days to cool down, calm down and rethink what you want and don’t want in your relationship. But don’t wait longer than that to try and get your ex back because there is a little known “bug” that begins to grow after that and it is called “indifference.” The opposite of love is not hate…it’s indifference…when they just don’t care anymore and nothing you do is going to work.
If you want to get your ex back you need an action plan. You want techniques that work fast to get your ex back not drive your ex away. The 30 day period is the time for that. This is when you must discover the clues that will tell you if your ex still loves you and what to say and do to get your ex back and keep your ex for a long, long time into the future.
