Many people develop their ideas of what marriage is from what they have seen when they were growing up. They see their parents stressed out paying bills, ignoring each other or watching them argue. Then there are others who develop their ideas of marriage from watching movies and from those married in Hollywood. For the most part, gathering ideas of marriage from those two types of sources may not have been wise. The best way to obtain a god view of marriage is to grow up in a home where both your mother and father are born again and where you are receiving teaching from a ministry leader who has a successful marriage as well.
It is sad to say that many people do not receive an opportunity to grow up in a home where their caretakers or guardians are born again. For those unaware of what born again means, it means that a person has accepted what Jesus Christ has done on the cross, believe that he was raised from the grave and sits with the Father in Heaven and are now filled with God’s Spirit (Holy Spirit). The Holy Spirit then empowers the man or woman to read the Word and apply that word to their marriages. These parents must also receive further revelation from their ministry leaders in a local church. The parents would then be able to live a holy life in front of their children. Some children did not see this but observed their mother and father engaging in physical fights. Some children may have witnessed they parents using negative language and calling each other bad names. Some kids may not even see their parents be affectionate towards one another. The latter is not what a marriage should look like.
A marriage is not two people living in one home but never coming together within the home. A marriage should not paint a picture of one spouse doing majority of the work in the home (unless there is a medical reason for it). A marriage should not be where one spouse is home all day with the children and doing housework while the other spouse is out with their friends every day of the week.
A marriage is a sacred union where a man and a woman complete a journey together on Earth while also in the presence of God. The man and woman are affectionate towards each other every day. The man and woman acknowledge each other’s presence daily. They do not argue in front of their children. Married couples are physical with one another intimately but not in an abusive manner. A marriage should include times of laugher but also times of crying. It is about living a holy life but also being real since you are human.
Television and movies may not be a good place to receive a concept of marriage, especially if it is not a Christian movie or program. Television shows pictures of same sex marriages, which is an abomination to God. They show man beating on woman and spouses engaging in extra-marital affairs. These images lead to the destruction of Godly marriages. Unfortunately, many people desire to have a perfect marriage without going to the Perfect Book and talking directly to a Perfect God in Heaven.
For those of you who didn’t grow up in a Godly home or only viewed marriage through T.V., there is still hope for your current marriage. You don’t have to engage in the same vicious divorce cycle within your family. Your hope should lie in God and in a couple’s coach that is available at www.coupleslifecoach.org. Visit the site for more details on coaching services.
